Infidelity often breaks a marriage, destroys trust, and results in emotional turmoil in all the parties involved. It can be difficult to measure the actual prevalence of infidelity. Marriages and divorces are documented but infidelity isn't monitored. To further complicate things, the definition of cheating isn't the same for all individuals. What one may think as infidelity could be tolerable for another person.
Some say that 60 percent of men will cheat while 40 percent of women will be unfaithful. It's important to know that marriage infidelity doesn't always have to end in divorce. A marriage damaged by infidelity can in fact be fixed. But it does take time. It won't be easy but it is possible to fix a marriage troubled by cheating.
If your marriage was affected by infidelity and you want to save your marriage, know that you are up to a great challenge. It will take time, patience and a lot of courage to fix your marriage. Tips that can help you in the process of healing can be found below.
If you are the guilty party, you can start the healing process by being totally honest. Tell your spouse all that she or he wants to know. It helps the innocent spouse to know how or why it happened. A marriage counselor can help you to become honest if you're having trouble telling your spouse about exactly what happened. But you have to be able to tell the truth to regain your partner's trust.
Examine yourself to find out why it happened. If you are not happy with your marriage, you will have to uncover the causes of your unhappiness first. To prevent unfaithfulness from happening again, it is essential to know the root cause of the problem. Also, you will have to show genuine remorse. It's essential to reassure your spouse that the infidelity won't happen again to rebuild the trust.
If you're the victim, be clear on what you want your spouse to do to bring back your trust. Learn how to be friends again by spending as much time together as possible. Although it is impossible to forget about the betrayal, try to learn to forgive. Forgiveness, actually benefits you more than your unfaithful spouse. By forgiving, you throw away your emotional burden.
It is true that rebuilding a marriage after an affair will take a very strong will. But it may help you to know that couples who succeeded in repairing their marriage emerged stronger and happier.